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Friday, June 21, 2013

Helpful Web Site for Porn Addicts/Abusers

Someone recommended this site a while back, but I forgot to post a link.


There is a lot of helpful information there to understand the problem and get help.

My advice: do NOT use this or other sites to mash other people who are using porn and do not want to quit.  There is nothing more counterproductive to insight and recovery than a NAG!

Do not be a NAG.  Just set your boundaries and then act accordingly.  If your spouse or potential spouse is using, then tell him/her, "Give it up or you are gone."  Then, you had better follow through.  otherwise, you will have to put up with it until Mr. or Ms. Right has figured out how horrid it really is.  That may take a while.

If you NAG, then you are likely to get either lies or momentary 'abstinence,' which will be followed either by a replacement activity or relapse.  And, once you have trained your addict to ignore your threats, because you don't have the strength to leave, then the addict will happily take charge.

Nagging actually empowers the addict by demonstrating you are not serious.  Be serious, or be quiet.

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